Impossible Dreams

So I got myself all pumped up about going back to raiding after my week off, with a little "rah rah for the guild" pep talk... Overall it was a pretty decent raid - we made decent Lich King attempts and the teenage boys who generally annoy me weren't overly annoying. Two people chatted with me a bit in whispers. But still, I found myself feeling disappointed. Two hours into the raid, the only thing anyone had said to me in vent was "What's the deal with Kalinia?" (my enhance shaman husband) And as much as I appreciated getting tells from two friends, I yearned for more social interaction. Maybe it's completely selfish of me, but I was hoping that more people would say "hey Fungi, glad you're back." That's one of the aspects I really miss about being the guild I founded: that everyone knew who I was, and most of them seemed to like me. When I mentioned to someone during the raid last week that they hadn't said anything to me other than asking about my husband, they replied that they hadn't said anything to the other 24 people either. Great, so I'm just a number on the roster... Is it too much to ask to have a guild with solid, skilled players who make steady progression, and still feel like an integral member of the team? I know I'm needed as a tank right now, but it's nice to feel appreciated as a person. Is it just an impossible dream to find a group that's as rewarding socially as it is with progression?